The Process Divorce Mediators Use to Reach An Agreement

Honestly, the divorce mediation process can take months and months to settle. Part of this is because of the many factors and issues that surround divorce cases. When it comes to the process, it may be longer than what this article portrays but generally, the mediator will incorporate most of the work under the following stages. More can be found here.

First Meeting

The couple and the mediator identify the issues in the divorce case needing to be discussed and how they will be discussed, then decide what information needs to be gathered and shared. Between the first and later sessions, the couple gathers all relevant financial data, or if necessary, the opinions of experts such as appraisers or accountants, with this material treated with the same care and concern as would be the case in the adversarial process. See here for information about Ideal Instances When to Hire a Divorce Mediator.

Further Meetings

Discussions revolve around how to compromise on the various issues to meet both parties’ needs. The mediator assists by providing information about the court system and common ways divorce issues are resolved in a divorce settlement.

The Agreement 

When an agreement has been reached on all issues, the mediator drafts the agreement for review by each of the parties and their attorneys, if any.

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